After becoming a travel lush, I knew I’d have to revise what I was looking for in a future husband. I realized that eventually when I settled down, it would have to be with someone who was willing to be my lifetime traveling partner-in-crime. For those of you who follow the blog, you probably already know I was fortunate enough to find that dreamy guy. He was even smart enough to put a ring on it a few months ago–because let’s be honest; if you don’t lock down a girl who travels, she just might fly somewhere and not come back.
So what happens when you do find that special person and you suddenly have the permanent travel mate you’ve always dreamed of? It’s important to learn how to travel with him or her…and not strangle one another along the many trips you’ll take together. If you’re planning a trip with your significant other, first check out the following tips from these seasoned traveling couples who have been through it all!
Jenny and Charlie, an endearing married couple who just happen to be two of my closest friends and ultimate role models.
1. Look out for one another!
Travel is better when you work together and can be less costly. We always cross check one another when it comes to preparation (i.e. travel documents, money, reservation information etc.). We know the experience will be bad for the both of us, if one of us forgot our passport when we show up to the airport for international travel. When you look out for one another when traveling, the experience can be rewarding.
Charlie: When it comes to air travel today, rarely an inflight meal is offered. Jenny always looks out for me by packing little snacks to share along the way whenever we get “peckish” as she would say.
Jenny: Sometimes we ladies have the heavier suitcases (beauty products; accessories; clothes – sometimes more than necessary). Thankfully, Charlie helps to put those things in “his suitcase” to ensure we have good weight distribution :).
2. Vocalize, Compromise & Open your mind to something new.
Always share what you want to do before traveling. Have a discussion. There’s nothing worse than being upset or arguing about where to go when you are there; time is too precious! Don’t expect that your likes will align closely with your travel partner’s own. Be willing to compromise to create a balanced plan.
3. Take videos of one another.
With today’s instant video technology on our smart devices, don’t just rely on pictures. Capture your travel moments in video for your own unique memories and for those in the future. When viewing past travels, for us, we realize that video has a very visceral impact, it lets us hear our voices, shows our reactions, defines our character within the moment.
Ben and Tiana (@benana_travels), a Jamaican & Minnesotan who are smitten with travel and currently seeing the world one place at a time.
4. Be spontaneous!
Whether you are single or traveling with a significant other, you need to anticipate that things often don’t go as planned. However, as a couple you have to make a conscious decision that you will not take it out on the other person once it happens. Usually between the two people there is the planner, and then there is the person who goes with the flow. When the plans get turned upside down, it is necessary to keep a positive attitude and try a little spontaneity – Perhaps try something off the map, throw the itinerary into the wind and enjoy each other’s company.
5. Plan romantic activities.
Traveling as a couple means you have an excuse to try all the romantic things you might avoid when you are flying solo. Take advantage of these opportunities especially at destinations like Paris, Venice, or Rome.
6. Actually learn to ask for directions.
Ben: I hardly do it in the U.S. (my home country), let alone a foreign country with another language. Too often stubbornness gets you both lost, so you might as well get your practice in with the new language you are supposed to be learning to speak. Most of the time, it is Tiana that is pulling us out of the navigational mess I’ve put us in.
7. Trust in each other’s strengths.
Ben: I am the planner, and I often find some pretty cool spots that require research beyond a tourist guidebook. When I am seeking out a new spot, 20% of the time it’s a dud. However, the 80% of the time it works out, it ends up being pretty amazing. Tiana trusts me and she knows that the occasional disappointments are worth the treasure troves we come across the other times. With Tiana, I’ve learned to be in the moment and enjoy the pleasure of her company when she decides it is time to relax.
Simon and Tamara, a super stylish couple with an up-and-coming blog featuring all their incredible adventures together. Follow @onebytwoblog on Instagram to keep up with these two as they document their trips across the globe.
8. Invest in a good camera with a good lens and sufficient memory card.
Memories will fade, but pictures can help the two of you re-live those moments!
9. Save time by planning ahead.
If you are pressured for time on your holiday, plan ahead. Make sure you buy tickets to sites and attractions prior to leaving on holiday. This means you both can skip the usual long lines and save a huge amount of time!
Karl and Me! Come on guys; you know I couldn’t post this article without throwing in my own little nugget of wisdom.
10. Good communication is the key to a fight-free trip.
What is supposed to be a fun and relaxing vacation can easily turn into a stressful trip for both of you if things start to go wrong. That stress can cause tension, which can lead to an argument. Hopefully, if you follow all the awesome tips that were provided above, you guys won’t even reach that boiling point. In case you do though, our tip is to take a deep breath and think about the consequences of starting an argument. Ask yourself if the temporary high you’ll feel from lashing out in a moment of anger is worth ruining what could be a once-in-a-lifetime trip with the person you love. It’s not, is it? Instead, just talk it out.
On a trip I took with Karl last week, I explained to him why I was annoyed about something he did, and he told me how appreciative he was that I clarified with him exactly what was bothering me. Karl is the kind of guy who won’t make the same mistake twice as long as you communicate to him what he did wrong. He doesn’t process yelling or silent treatments very well, as most people don’t–and why should they? When you are upset, it is your job to communicate your feelings with your partner in a productive way that will solve the issue, not exacerbate it. Learn to communicate calmly in stressful situations, and you’ll be able to conquer any roadblock you guys encounter on your travels.
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